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On teaching art


For some reason, teaching art in our homeschool has been a struggle.  Which is a shame because I have a degree in art, a Bachelor’s Degree of Fine Arts in Metal Design to be exact.  I always felt I needed an art curriculum but lately, that’s changing.  What I decided to do this time and will hopefully continue through the end of this school year is to just read about artists and then let the kids explore their creativity.  It seems to be working well, however we’ve only studied one artist.

 

Jackson Pollock.

 

I thought that perhaps an unstructured artist might be the easiest to start with.  Jackson Pollock most definitely was NOT structured.  He painted on huge canvases stretched out on the floor with gallons of house paint, old stiff brushes, sticks and the full motion of his own body.  He truly got “into” his work.

 

Well, so did the kids.  No, I didn’t let them paint on huge canvases (although in hindsight, that would have been way fun!) but they did enjoy not having to follow a pattern.  They just painted.  And splattered.  And dripped.  And laughed.  And learned about mixing colors (I only gave them red, yellow and blue paints).  Plus it was beautiful outside.  All in all, a great day.

 

 



I heard this quote the other night: “I feel like it’s your job to parent them.  If you’re the parent, be a parent.” I’m not going to tell you who said it, because it might cloud your judgement of the statement.  But let’s think about this, shall we?  And yes, I am going to make a few assumptions about things and speak in generalities, but I don’t have the time to actually research numbers.  I can only speak from personal experience and how I observe things in this world.

It’s your job to parent them.

What do your children listen to?  Who are their friends?  Where do they play?  It’s easy for me to control this right now; my daughter is only 8 years old and my son will be 5 soon.  I’m not handing them the keys to the car just yet (nor will I until they’re about 25) but I’m hopeful that my involvement now will influence how they are as teenagers.  I’d like to think that my active participation in their life now will only serve to provide them with a platform, a sturdy framework on which to build their life.  I’m not perfect, by any means.  There are days when I’m just as likely to turn on the TV for them to watch so I can get things done as I am to spend time with them doing what they want to do.  There are times when I’ve reached the end of my rope and snapped at them.

But I will not become passive as a parent when they hit those teen years.  I’ll be just as involved then as I am now but it’ll be a different kind of involvement.  I’ll talk to their teachers (assuming I’m not still homeschooling my daughter) and their friends.  I’ll know their friend’s parents and their coaches.  Sure, they will have independence, but they will also have me.

If you’re the parent, be the parent.

It’s easy to throw blame around on other people when you see bad things happen.  But couldn’t it all just boil down to what they were taught at home?  If someone was taught, whether by example or by inattentiveness, to be disrespectful to others, then who is to blame?  The child or the parent?  What about entitlement?  Suppose a child is given their every desire; wouldn’t that fail to teach them the value of working towards a goal and instead teach them that they should have everything, regardless of what cost it might be (and I’m not just talking financial cost)?

But let’s go back to the notion of respect.  For me, everything boils down to respect for others.  I’ve written about this before and I do still believe this.  And you’ve heard it before: “Kids these days have no respect.”  And who should we look to?  The parents.  Since when did it become “cool” to backtalk your parents or your teachers or any other adult for that matter?  I’ve often seen parents try to be the “friend” instead of the parent, but kids have lots of friends and only one set of parents.  Children need that role model.  Since when did “ma’am” and “sir” become lost in our vernacular?  Parents should be parenting their children and be involved and teach them the importance of showing respect.  A local teacher is waging her own battle against disrespectful students and I applaud her efforts.  But I have to ask the question:  If the parents were being the parents, would she still have this problem?

As I said at the beginning, I’m making a lot of generalities here and I know that my children are not perfect, nor am I a perfect parent.  I often have to remind them to change the “yeah” to “yes, please” or “yes, ma’am” or the “nope” to “no, thank you” but they’re making progress.  Monkey and I talk quite a bit about bullying and respect and how “I was just teasing” isn’t the answer to saying something that hurts someone else’s feelings.  With Little Man, it’s more of a struggle getting him to think of others, but that’s a whole other post.  I often have to step back myself and ask if I could have handled something differently or better.

But back to this:  ”I feel that it’s your job to parent them.  If you’re the parent, be the parent.” Are you curious yet who said this?  Marshall Mathers.  Do you know him?  He’s better known as Eminem, a controversial rapper if there ever was one.  This was his response to Anderson Cooper’s question on 60 Minutes about whether or not Em should feel responsible for children learning profanity from his music.  Even he doesn’t use that language around his daughters.  Surprised?  I’m not.  I hope you take the time to watch this.

Soccer and four-year-olds

Little Man started playing organized soccer three weeks ago.  It’s more of a soccer “camp” in that it only lasts 8 weeks and he’s learning more skills and playing less games but it’s an outlet for his energy.  But I have to tell you, I have learned something about myself watching him play.  But let me back up ~ I’m getting ahead of myself.

He’s playing at an indoor soccer place.  There’s also another indoor field and a regulation size ice rink in the same building.  Monkey is taking ice skating lessons at the same time Little Man plays soccer so I’m pretty busy going back and forth.  The thing about indoor soccer fields is that they are surrounded by a wall of plexiglass to keep the balls on the field and presumably the watchers safe.  I’m beginning to think it’s to keep those overbearing soccer moms and dads at bay, but that’s just me.

The first week, Little Man’s hands contacted the ball more than his feet did (and he wasn’t playing goalie).  He did learn towards the end of the hour to keep his hands off the ball.

Last week, Little Man made soccer a full contact sport.  I think he spent more time tackling the other boys (he left the girls alone) and wrestling them to the ground than he did chasing the ball.  But at least his hands weren’t touching the ball.

Last night wasn’t quite so full contact and there was definite improvement on his game play.  But there were a couple of times when he just stood there, or went off on his own following that drummer with a different beat.  This is where I come in and why I think there is plexiglass between the parents and the kids.  As loud as I may yell, he doesn’t hear me.  As much as I may walk up and down the side of the field, he doesn’t really see me.  As much as I want to interject myself into his game, I’m forced to leave it up to the coaches to correct him and have faith that my little stubborn four-year-old will listen.

Maybe it’s a good thing they aren’t playing on an outdoor grassy field.  I think I’d be one of those parents that gets ejected from the game.

A crafty Valentine idea

Monkey and I decided to get a little crafty this year for her valentines.  Her homeschool enrichment program meets on Mondays and Wednesday and they are exchanging valentines this week.  Her teacher encouraged the kids to get a little creative with their valentines and so Monkey and I looked around online to see what we could find.  We discovered Valentine’s Day Fortune Cookies on a blog I visit (thanks, Brandi over at Not Your Average Ordinary) and they were ridiculously easy to make.

First, you find some craft felt at your local craft store.  We tested the idea with paper but it just didn’t turn out so well.  Trace a circle on the felt and cut it out.  We used a bowl and it worked out nicely for size.

Take some pipe-cleaners and cut them to the same length as the diameter of the circle.  Glue with tacky glue or fabric glue.  I guess you can use a hot glue gun, too, but this is what we had on hand.

Then place the pipe-cleaner along the center of the circle.

Glue a small section across one half of the circle…

… then fold over like a taco.

We made lots of tacos.

Then Monkey spent some time hand writing her own messages on little strips of paper.  She even came up with “You’re a “dog”gone good friend” all on her own.  It was for a friend who really likes dogs.  Can you believe it?  I giggled about that all afternoon.

Then she used fancy cutting scissors to make them look neat.

We slid the strips of paper inside our little “tacos” after they dried, then we folded them back over the middle and made our little fortune cookies!  And a pipe-cleaner heart just because we could.

And there you have a basket full of red Valentine Fortune Cookies.

Waking up with enthusiasm

Little Man has a new thing.  It’s waking up happy.  No, that’s not right, not happy – elated.  No, that’s not right either.  Ok, so maybe I can’t my words right, but I think you get the idea.  No?  Well, here, let me explain.

Three mornings ago, he burst from his room, running down the hall yelling something.  I have no idea what.  It could have been “BONZAI” and it would have totally fit.  Normally, I hear him rustling in his room as he’s waking up, turning on the light, that sort of thing.  Oh, no.  Not this morning.  Why bother with such trivialities as lights when life is waiting for you?

Two mornings ago, I heard him before he reached his closed door.  ”Wah HOO!  Wah HOO!”  He opened his door and practically danced into our room, chanting “wah hoo!”  I asked him why he was in such a good mood and he tells me, quite frankly and in that how-can-you-really-ask-me-that tone, “Because it’s morning-time.”

This morning was a duplicate of two mornings ago.  ”Wah HOO” echoes down the hall and Little Man celebrates another day.

Shouldn’t we all be that way?  Shouldn’t we all wake up with joy in our hearts and celebrate the new day?  It’s another gift; another opportunity to get things right; another opportunity to connect with a friend or family member.  For this is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.  Right?

I think tomorrow I’ll shout “Wah HOO” when I wake up.  Especially if I see 6 inches of snow on the ground :)

Stuck

This past weekend was a good one.  A dear friend had to have shoulder surgery last month and as a surprise, I planned a pedicure session for a group of us to pamper her.  It was a great excuse to go get a pedi and she hadn’t had one in years.  It was fan-tab-ulous!

While we were sitting around letting our toes dry and finishing our glass of wine, I got a call from Trey.  He usually doesn’t call unless something is wrong but this time he was calling to share a funny story.  I’m here to share it with you.

It was a beautiful day – perfect fall weather – so he and Little Man were outside playing and doing yard work.  Trey was working on trimming some bushes that had grown too high by the house and decided to get the ladder out to finish the trimming from the roof.  While he was up there, he started cleaning off the leaves and getting junk out of the gutters.  As he’s telling me this, my first thought was the Little Man had climbed up the ladder to join him.  Nope.

CRASH

Little Man had knocked over the ladder.  Trey is stuck on the roof.  Trey said that Little Man was standing there like “what?” then started trying to lift the ladder up himself.

“I can’t get it, Daddy!”

“Go get Monkey!”

“K!”

So Little Man returns with Monkey.  Trey tells her that Little Man had knocked over the ladder.  Monkey tells him Little Man said Daddy did it.

Monkey was able to get the ladder up (she’s really a strong little girl) but it was very unstable.  Trey and Monkey worked together to find a stable piece of ground so that he could get down without falling.

I can’t even begin to tell you how badly I wished I could have seen it all happen.  I would have been standing there with a video camera for sure.

Taking a snow day

snow

A couple of weeks ago, our pastor delivered a message about taking a snow day.  To sum it up, he said that if the God Almighty, creator of the Universe, takes a break after working all week, then maybe we can, and should, too.

Many religions celebrate Sabbath in some way.  But this post isn’t about that.  It’s about a snow day.

Do you remember when you were a kid and you woke up on a school day only to see a few inches of snow on the ground and mom telling you there’s no school?  Remember how much FUN that was?  No school, no school work, no homework, no responsibility?

What about as a grown-up?  You wake up one morning, getting ready for work or school or with your list of errands in hand only to find that everything “out there” is closed due to snow.  You can’t get to work, you can’t go run those 50-bazillion errands you planned, you’re just stuck at home.  But you don’t necessarily feel guilty about it because you know everyone else is stuck at home, too.

So, what do you do?

You relax, you play, you go outside with your kids and make a snow angel, snow man or a snow fort (if you get enough snow).  You have a snowball fight with your spouse then head inside for some hot chocolate and a fire in the fire place.  Yeah, I admit, I got a little Norman Rockwell, but come on.  Isn’t this what a snow day is all about?  No real responsibility, like work or going to the grocery store (unless you didn’t make that egg, milk and bread run before the storm.  You have to be able to make French Toast in a snow storm.  I’m not sure why, but it’s a rule, apparently).

People are wired to get breaks.  We’re made for sleeping and resting.  If we don’t get sleep, we lose the ability to function.  Did you know that someone who is sleep deprived and driving is a worse driver than someone who is drunk?  If we don’t take breaks, we get irritable, grumpy and don’t do our best.  We snap at the kids, we don’t do our jobs to the best of our ability, we take it out on our partners.  Our health and our bodies fail us if we don’t get breaks.

We’re told in the Bible that God rested after working for 6 days.  If he does it, why shouldn’t we?

We should be taking a break once a week – that’s 52 snow days a year.  Put it on your calendar!  Take a snow day.  Let go of the guilt of not getting anything done and enjoy the day relaxing or doing a favorite hobby.  Take your kids to the park for an entire afternoon with no agenda to run here or there afterwards.  Leave the dishes in the sink and go out to eat and let someone else do the cooking and cleaning.  Curl up with a book and read.  The work, the chores, the dishes – they’ll all be there the next day,  but will your sanity and your health?

Go take a snow day.

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? ~ Mark 8:37

budget cuts and rest stops

photo by essygie

photo by essygie

We are road-tripping this week.  Driving from home to Baltimore then West Virginia then Pennsylvania then West Virginia then home.  I enjoy a good road trip and I haven’t had one in a while.

Here’s the thing.  Road-tripping with children is a whole new adventure.  Especially when one of them is still not 100% potty trained.  But the interstate system is usually pretty good about having rest stops along the way.

That is, until now.

Apparently, Virginia decided to close many of its rest stops to save money.  I’m all for saving money, but this time, it comes at the expense of my children’s bladders and their need to stretch out their legs.  Also, it doesn’t seem to make sense to close them during the summer when there tends to be more people driving on vacations and such.  The ones that are still open are roughly two hours apart.

Sure, I could stop at McDonalds, but then I have to explain to the kids, “no, we’re just using the bathroom and this one doesn’t have a playland so we can’t stay.”  Try getting a 3 year old to understand that.  Ain’t happenin’.  And I’m not stopping at every exit with a McDonald’s sign to see if it has the playland.  I’ll never get to my destination!

I could stop at a convenient store, but I’m not often a fan of their not-so-clean bathrooms.  Yesterday, I got lucky.  I had to get gas, too, and I just so happened to stop at one of those stores that also has a Subway inside.  The bathroom was large and fairly clean.

Other times, convenient stores and kids don’t really get along.  There’s all that food – candy, cookies, donuts, chips – within reach of the children so I have to quickly usher them down the aisles past all that tempting food (it’s tempting to me, too, ya know!).  Sometimes the bathrooms are cramped and dirty enough that you stand there at the door, trying to figure out if there’s a way to hover your way in without even your shoes touching the sticky, toilet-paper littered floor.  And don’t get me started on bringing in a curious 3 year old who likes to explore everything with his hands.  Blech!

I do realize that over the years, with interstate towns growing around just about every exit, there are many more options for stopping for things like bathrooms and stretching the legs than just a rest stop.  But for me, I prefer the rest stop.  Generally, the bathrooms are large and clean, there are picnic tables for eating lunch (I usually pack lunch in an effort to save money and keep from eating too much junk food) and an open area for the kids to race.  Nothing like a little friendly competition between siblings to burn some energy while on the road.  You can’t find that “open space” around a convenient store, unless I let the kids run willy-nilly through the parking lot, which I’m not willing to do.

Now, having said all of that, because I couldn’t stop at a rest stop when Monkey was complaining about needing to stretch her legs, I took an exit that had a “tourist center” sign and discovered a frontier museum in Virginia.  While we didn’t have time yesterday to stay for the museum, I will be planning to break up our trip home with a stop there.  There’s plenty of walking around for the kids to stretch their legs, they have tables for lunch and/or snacking and the children will get to learn something about farms in other countries and in America from around the 1700′s and 1800′s.

I would never have found this interesting bit of history right off the interstate if it hadn’t been for the closed rest stops.  And isn’t the point of a true road trip to make little side trips and adventures along the way, especially for the kids?

I love a good road trip.

A new parenting tip

When the kids have way too much energy from staying inside all day long when the weather is nasty outside, it helps when you or your spouse has been through boot camp.

 
Tonight, the kids have done:
 
suicides
 
wind sprints
 
push ups
 
mountain climbers
 
leg lifts
 
squat thrusts
 
arm circles
 
jumping jacks
 
And like the Energizer Bunny, they just keep going and going and…..
 

He stole a pancake

Sunday morning, something funny happened in a not-so-funny way.  The kids were eating pink  pancakes (I made extra pink pancakes on Saturday so they could also have some on Sunday) and I was downstairs catching up on my emails while they ate.  I usually get a good 5-10 minutes uninterrupted, depending on what they’re eating.
  

Monkey has this habit of getting up in the middle of breakfast and dashing to the bathroom.  One would think that she would get that bit of business taken care of beforehand, but not so.

 
She came back to the table (after cleaning up, of course) and I hear, “Little Man!”
 
Monkey walked downstairs, calling for me, and I could tell by her tone that she was barely holding it together.  
 
“What’s up?”  I ask, thinking any number of things that Little Man could have done.
 
“Little Man ate my last bite of pancakes,”
 
“Really?  He really did that?”  This was not on my list of things that Little Man could have done.
 
“Yeah, he really did.”
 
Oh man, what to do.  Well, he can’t really give it back, now can he?  So we go upstairs and have as reasonable a conversation as anyone can with a 3 year old about how it’s not nice to take food from another person’s plate, not even his sister.
 
But I have to wonder if she’ll be leaving her plate of pancakes unprotected again.